Wednesday, June 3, 2026

Read Between the Lines

Recently, I found myself doing something I hadn't done in a long time.

Stepping back and looking at my career as a whole. 

Not just the jobs I've held or the milestones I've achieved. 

But the lessons, relationships, and experiences that shaped who I've become as a professional.

Like many people navigating unemployment, I've spent countless hours updating my resume, tailoring applications, networking, and trying to tell the story of my career in a way that fits neatly into a few pages.

What I've discovered is that the longer your career becomes, the harder that task gets.

My resume tells you where I've worked. 

It tells you my titles, certifications, responsibilities, projects, and accomplishments.

What it doesn't tell you is what I learned along the way.

It doesn't show the managers, mentors, and leaders who saw potential in me, challenged me to grow, and trusted me with opportunities before I felt fully ready for them.

It doesn't show the lessons that came from stepping into those opportunities, making mistakes, adapting, and learning along the way.

It doesn't show the hundreds of conversations with employees, customers, executives, and colleagues that shaped how I think about leadership, problem-solving, and change.

Over the course of my career, I've worked through growth, mergers, acquisitions, reorganizations, leadership transitions, layoffs, and more uncertainty than I could have imagined when I first entered the workforce.

Those experiences taught me things that are difficult to measure and even harder to explain:

How to recognize patterns in complex situations.

How to balance empathy with accountability.

How to navigate uncertainty without creating panic.

How to listen before reacting.

How to build trust.

And how to bring people together around a common goal when priorities, personalities, and perspectives don't always align.

I've also gained a different perspective on change over the years.

In business, we often talk about reorganizations, workforce reductions, and restructuring as operational decisions. We discuss budgets, utilization, capacity, forecasts, and business priorities.

What can get lost in those conversations is the human impact.

Behind every role is a person.

Behind every organizational decision is a human story.

A family.

A mortgage.

A career path.

A sense of identity tied to the work we do.

Experiencing job loss firsthand has reinforced something I always believed, but understand more deeply now:

Business decisions may be necessary, but they are never purely business decisions to the people affected by them.

They create uncertainty.

They challenge confidence.

They force people to rethink their future.

And sometimes they leave people struggling to explain the value they've spent decades building.

Maybe that's what I've been wrestling with most during this chapter of my career.

Not whether my experience still has value.

But how to communicate the value of everything that experience has taught me.

Because the longer I do this, the more I realize that some of the most valuable things I've gained throughout my career don't fit neatly into a resume.

Judgment.

Perspective.

Resilience.

Adaptability.

Trust.

Those qualities weren't learned in a classroom, earned through a certification, or developed in a single role.

They were built over years of successes, failures, challenges, relationships, and experiences.

A resume can tell the story of what we did.

But some of the most important parts of a career live between the lines.

Friday, May 8, 2026

Still Here. Still Wearing Mica (Shade 620)

I created this blog years ago when “slapping on some lipstick” felt like a reasonable strategy for almost anything.

Not just about appearance, but about momentum. A small act of readiness. A way of saying: “I don’t have it all figured out, but I’m going anyway.”

And while I’ve owned hundreds of lipsticks over the years, there’s one shade that somehow always finds its way back into my purse: L’OrĂ©al Mica. A reliable little constant since high school. 

Not because life is always light enough for lipstick—but because sometimes it isn’t, and you still have to show up anyway.

Now I’m back in a different season.

A quieter house after years of raising children who are now grown and building lives of their own.

A body that feels different than it used to and occasionally demands more attention than I’m used to giving it.

A season of navigating health changes, shifting energy, and learning to pay attention to things I used to push past without much thought.

And a career shift I didn’t expect, re-entering a job market that feels both familiar and completely new at the same time.

None of it is dramatic on its own. But life rarely arrives all at once anyway.

I don’t write here because I have answers. I write because I notice things. Because if I don’t put them somewhere, they tend to stay louder than I want them to be.

And because I still believe in that older instinct—to start where you are, even if you’re not entirely ready for where you’re going.

So yes… consider this my re-entry.

And if you need it too—slap on some lipstick.




Sunday, May 10, 2020

Not All Pain is Physical














say it and take courage: ask for help
It's been quite some time since I last posted on my blog. Life gets busy, kids get older, jobs come and go and priorities change. This past year, especially the last few months have been difficult for everyone due to the effects of COVID-19.  My daughter, Kate, like many young teens, has been struggling. At her request, she wanted to share her story. I can't think of a better day than today to share with everyone how proud I am to be her MOM. 
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In honor of May being Mental Health Awareness Month, I have decided to share my story, not for publicity or attention, but because mental health is a real issue that affects 1 in 5 people, including me. 

My name is Kate Smith and this is my story... 

It all started when I was a young girl. I shouldn't have had a care in the world. But instead, I remember having a lot of anxiety. I noticed it in the way I would worry constantly, have difficulty falling asleep, and the occurrence of weekly, sometimes daily stomach aches. I have loving parents, an older brother who looks out for me, lots of friends, good grades, and a home with family dinners as often as our schedules would allow. I had no reason to feel anxious about anything, but I did. 

For many years my anxiety existed but it was also manageable. For the most part, I was able to enjoy most days. However, as I got older my struggle with anxiety increased along with signs of depression. In early 2019, I realized that I needed to ask for help. I didn't enjoy the things I used to. Most nights I cried myself to sleep and I had no sense of self-worth, which is when the dark and negative thoughts started to creep in. I began to see a therapist but had a very difficult time opening up, and if you aren't willing to open up, you won’t get much out of it. Talking to my parents and telling them how I really felt was nearly impossible. It’s hard to tell the people that brought me into this world and love me unconditionally, how much I was really struggling.

Depression is not a sign of weakness, it's a reminder that you need God. ~ Mark BrownI also have a very strong belief in God. My faith has got me through a lot. I have been blessed to go on mission trips that have changed my life in so many ways I cannot begin to explain. I feel so connected and so free on these trips. The friendships I have created, the connections I have made, and the presence of God have made me who I am.  During my darkest days, I was starting to doubt my purpose and questioned why the God I believe in and trust would just watch me struggle for so long.  I began to question my faith and felt a loss of purpose. This is the moment I realized I needed more help than therapy.
With guidance from my parents and therapist, I began an intense therapy program that required daily attendance for approximately 3-6 weeks, depending on my progress.  I was terrified of going but knew I needed it. I wanted to be happy and enjoy things again. Talking about my feelings and opening up about it is hard enough, let alone talking about it for 8 hours every day.  Slowly I began to share, open up, and take skills I had learned to help myself. I slowly started to feel better. I was hopeful but cautious and reluctant to believe it was possible. I was waiting for the other shoe to drop because that is how it had been for so long. I began to realize that I have learned skills to work better, smarter, harder, stronger, and differently on the bad days. As a result, I am truly getting better. Going through those darkest moments I wasn't sure I could get through it, but I did. Not all pain is physical. Not all wounds are visible. You never know what people are going through, especially during these difficult times. Check-in with your loved ones. Send a simple text saying how much they matter and they are not alone.  For anyone reading this, suffering from anxiety, depression, and suicidal ideation, you truly can get through it. This is my story. It is who I am but it does not define me, it is a part of me!



























Sunday, December 7, 2014

Crossing the Line

In life there can be many first time experiences that become a special part of our memories. Destined to never be forgotten, they can seem as real today as the day they happened.



"There's nothing like running the Twin Cities Marathon." You've heard it before. I've heard it before. Friends did their best telling me what to expect: Cheering fans lining the streets, handmade signs, and tears from both spectators and exhausted runners. Of course, you can't forget that proverbial wall—somewhere between miles 18 and 22—where many question just how much strength they have left as they approach Summit Avenue, putting one foot in front of the other, reflecting back to those months of training leading up to that final run. 


All that stuff is definitely there on race day. But no amount of words can ever do the experience justice. To really describe the emotions a marathon runner feels striding through all 26.2 miles is hard. Sure, everyone's experience is different. But for me, October 5th, 2014 is a day that I will never forget.


For a first-timer, the camaraderie was something to behold and perhaps added to the emotional impact. From the first mile on, there were people willing each other on. There was a sense of unity among fellow runners that made the experience all the more special. Sharing the streets with so many other people all who have a story to tell, is so surreal.  The abundance of love from family who came to be there with me on my big day, the encouragement from friends, and support from complete strangers as I made my way through the “Most Beautiful Urban Marathon in America”, I was overwhelmed in the most wonderful sense of the word. 

Even though there were thousands running beside me, it was an extremely personal endeavor. I wasn’t racing anyone. It was a battle between myself and this idiotic notion that formed months ago when I thought it would be a good idea. For me, this was my Mt. Everest.

Despite the physical agony, the final mile was the most enjoyable. It's hard to explain what it felt like to finish my first marathon. Turning the corner and seeing the finish line, having an enthusiastic race volunteer slip my medal over my head. 



The end of the run wasn't about the last 26.2 miles; it was the culmination of months of training, 5 a.m. wake-up calls on Saturday mornings, training runs with my husband and crazy co-workers, missing toenails, blisters, sore knees, and sore hips. But the feeling of reaching my goal was worth it all. I couldn't remember a time when I felt prouder of myself, and while it was nice that my friends and family were all proud of me too, it was how I felt about myself that made it all worth it. Words alone are never enough to capture the energy, excitement and inevitable agony of running a marathon.

Runners are a special sort of kind, and I am proud to be one. I now officially belong to an elite group of 1/10th of 1% of Americans who can and do finish a marathon!
“With each step I learn more about myself
Realizing there is more to me than I knew
I have strength, I have endurance, I have patience
With each step I can feel my confidence
and I am determined to run until I’m done.”